Nearly two months ago I sat in my bed, face full of tears asking myself to step back and dig deep -- dig deep into what it was that I was doing wrong when it came to my relationships. Because while this guy had cheated and that guy had just been completely "not shit" -- I had to admit that there was a reason I continued to attract these men.Read More
Eventually, I made peace with the fact that God truly has bad timing (and a sick sense of humor) and decided that if I was going to partake in a long distance relationship, I needed to refer to my cardinal rule: Always keep your man satisfied, even when you can't be there to do so.Read More
As black women we've been taught this code of ethics surrounding sex -- one that determines how much of a lady you are based on how much push against the norms of black sexuality. So much of our lives as black girls are spent drowning in bullsh*t -- being told that only white girls give head and ladies don't discuss their sex lives, that we maintain these unhealthy views -- even as grown ass women.Read More
Whether you're having sex with yourself or someone else, it's important to know yourself. And if you don't -- well -- make time to get to know yourself.Read More
I spent nine months of my life with a man I thought was incredible, exuberant, and caring. I felt emotionally safe with him, but boy was I wrong.
I spent much of our relationship feeling suffocated by a deep depression and tons of anxiety attacks to match, while trying to cope with his constant inability to provide me with the time and affection I always had to request.Read More
At only 23, I can't help but feel like there's something missing in my life -- like there's something I'm not doing quite right. Not because I'm unsuccessful in my career or because I don't like the person I see myself becoming more and more each and every day. But, it's simply because one of the things I hold nearest to my heart -- love -- has been completely unattainable.Read More
For as long as l can remember my sexuality has been apart of who I am. I won't sit here and say that it's been something that I've always taken pride in, but from the age of seven I was aware of my libido -- even when I wasn't sure of what to call it. It was awakened for the first time after both I and a friend had consensually explored each others bodies during a routine game of house.Read More
I'll never claim to be the most sexually experienced woman in the world but like many other women I have my theories about men and their sex habits.
The most compelling: Broke men are much better in bed.
Don't believe me? Here are four reasons (backed by science!) that prove it:Read More
Despite all the doctors orders to check regularly for lumps and come in for routine visits, no one wants to believe that they can or will be the one who receives news of breast cancer. No less, it happens and we brave through the storm and come out stronger.Read More