Cuddling with Chakrubs (a Crystal Dildo) Changed Me -- for the Better

Nearly two months ago I sat in my bed, face full of tears asking myself to step back and dig deep -- dig deep into what it was that I was doing wrong when it came to my relationships. Because while this guy had cheated and that guy had just been completely "not shit" -- I had to admit that there was a reason I continued to attract these men.

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6 Things Black Girls Aren't "Supposed" to Do -- But Definitely Should

As black women we've been taught this code of ethics surrounding sex -- one that determines how much of a lady you are based on how much push against the norms of black sexuality. So much of our lives as black girls are spent drowning in bullsh*t -- being told that only white girls give head and ladies don't discuss their sex lives, that we maintain these unhealthy views -- even as grown ass women. 

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My Not-Shit Ex Cheated On Me -- Then Tried to Convince Me That I Was the Problem

I spent nine months of my life with a man I thought was incredible, exuberant, and caring. I felt emotionally safe with him, but boy was I wrong.

I spent much of our relationship feeling suffocated by a deep depression and tons of anxiety attacks to match, while trying to cope with his constant inability to provide me with the time and affection I always had to request. 

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Looking for (Self) Love in All the Wrong Place -- Plus a Few New Places

At only 23, I can't help but feel like there's something missing in my life -- like there's something I'm not doing quite right. Not because I'm unsuccessful in my career or because I don't like the person I see myself becoming more and more each and every day. But, it's simply because one of the things I hold nearest to my heart -- love -- has been completely unattainable. 

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I Embraced My Sexuality at 7-Years-Old -- & I Still Have Waaay More to Learn

For as long as l can remember my sexuality has been apart of who I am. I won't sit here and say that it's been something that I've always taken pride in, but from the age of seven I was aware of my libido -- even when I wasn't sure of what to call it. It was awakened for the first time after both I and a friend had consensually explored each others bodies during a routine game of house. 

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